Luvmour Consulting

Topics to build sustainable relationships with children

• Natural Learning Rhythms:

  Nurturing whole-child development in any context

  Learn to:

  • Nurture the whole-child at each age of development.
  • Gain confidence as a parent or mentor.
  • Create healthy boundaries.
  • Cultivate family as a source of energy and vitality.

  I think Natural Learning Rhythms was the most helpful thing we learned when we were raising our children. I’m very grateful for the difference it made in our family, and recommend your books often.

  Rod Newton
  Hidden Springs Wellness Center
  Ashland, OR

• Adult and Child Develop Together:

  The hidden benefits of nurturing the child’s
  developmental imperatives

  Developing Together: Developmental experiences of adults with children. Everyone accepts that adults influence children but few realize how the child changes the adult. We will focus on how nurturing development in the child leads to the emergence of new-meaning, greater self-knowledge, and adult development. Relationships between adult and child are the Dance of Mutual Development. For parents and professionals.

• Sibling Rivalries:

  Crafting healthy responses to difficult rivalry in the family Sibling rivalry is not necessarily natural. Learn the importance of play and some simple tools to help end sibling rivalry in your family.

  • Break the unwanted cycle of refereeing sibling rivalries.
  • Discover when fairness becomes important to children and how to respond.
  • Unravel why a child perceives a lack of resources and competes.
  • Know what children are capable of valuing in relationships.
  • Learn when the capacity to trust and cooperate emerges in children.

• Healthy Boundaries with Children:

  Creating and maintaining healthy boundaries
  in families

  • Use the creation of healthy boundaries to enrich your relationship with your child.
  • Learn the most common misconception about boundaries with young children and how to replace those misconceptions with a deeper understanding.
  • Create loving and appropriate boundaries for children younger than the age of 8.
  • Learn the underlying motivation for the behavior of children 8 to 12.
  • Gain teen cooperation when you learn how to co-create limits with teens.

• Communication with Your Teenager:

  Helping teens stay connected and make
  responsible choices

  Learn what makes communication with a teenager effective and how effective communication is the key to teen well-being. Help teens stay connected and make responsible choices. Communication is critical to keeping your teenager healthy. It doesn’t have to be storm and stress.

  • Learn effective ways to talk to your teen about the life issues they are facing.
  • Learn what to say and not to say when creating limits with teens.
  • Butting heads? Learn the easy steps to re-connect.
  • Having trouble communicating? Why asking questions is the answer.

• Teens and Power:

  The Natural Learning Rhythms approach

  • Move from rebellion and conflict to respectful relationships with your teen.
  • Co-create healthy limits and boundaries with your teen.
  • Identify and defuse conflicts before they ignite.

• The Blueprint:

  Mapping the consciousness of children and the relationships that support optimal parenting and education

  Understanding and supporting the way children organize their world is the bedrock of success for children and families. For parents, counselors, and educators who are looking for new ways to engage with children that are healthy and meaningful.

• Children and Social Justice:

  The child’s perceptions and contributions

  How to help children between the ages of 5 and 10 to optimize their capacities for social justice. Uses an easy-to-apply approach of child development, we will design strategies specific to the needs of each age child. This workshop is for everyone who interacts with children of this age in school, home, or work.

  Participants will:

  • Understand how children between 5 and 10 perceive social justice.
  • Design strategies which parents and professionals can immediately apply for optimal learning of social justice.
  • Identify three common mistakes in implementing social justice practices with a child.

• Spirituality and the Developing Child:

  Recognizing and nourishing the spiritual capacities of children

  Children of all ages have natural spiritual capacities. Critical issues that every adult faces are: (a) how to recognize the spiritual capacity of children as they grow and (b) how to support its optimal development? When these natural capacities are nourished the child’s spiritual awareness unfolds naturally and in harmony with their social and physical environment. This program will answer these issues in ways that every adult can understand and apply. Deepen your appreciation of spirituality and gain new ideas for optimal well-being in children and families.

• Behavioral Dysfunction:

  Diagnosis and responses that reconnect to well-being

  How do you determine what dysfunctional is? Many behaviors are misdiagnosed as dysfunctional when they are simply adaptations in the natural development of the child. In this program we explore a basic understanding of child development and family dynamics to identify which behaviors are truly dysfunctional and which are not. Using illustrative case histories and reflective exercises, we devise appropriate responses that parents and professionals can implement quickly and efficiently.

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• Catastrophe, War, and Natural Disaster:

  Optimal responses for children, professionals, and families

  We live in times when impending threat is quickly and powerfully transmitted through media and educational institutions in ways that come closer and closer to home. In this program we explore developmentally appropriate responses to news of war, natural disasters, and how to respond if friends or relatives are involved. Our 25 years of experience suggests that many adults unintentionally intensify the child’s fears due to lack of understanding of the capacities of children to successfully integrate news of these dramatic events.

• Divorce and Blending Families:

  Positive answers to a vexing challenge of our times

  Family is the crucible for learning about interpersonal relationships. This learning will play out for a lifetime. In this program, you learn general principles to mitigate the trauma of divorce and separation for each age child.

  Learn how to create successful blended families. A blended family is one in which there are children from previous marriage(s) who are now going to live with a new parent and/or siblings. Successful blending can be achieved by understanding the way children organize their world and the kind of communication that will allow each child to feel safe and supported. Participants discover a way to blend families that brings well-being for all family members. We bring a wealth of case histories and exercises that have proven successful during our quarter century of work in this field.

• Children, Their Families, and Bereavement:

  Children’s changing perceptions of death and
  dealing with bereavement

  The death of a family member, or someone close to the family, disrupts family equilibrium. Feelings of powerlessness and confusion can result when family members isolate or are in denial. How can we grieve together so that intimacy and connection is not only maintained but deepened? How can we respond to each child so they can function optimally? This program draws on material we have used for professional trainings of staff who work with children and death and dying.

• Perfectionism, Apathy, and Expectations:

  How do our agendas, both explicit and tacit, affect our children?

  We see things not as they are; we see things as we are (the Talmud). We examine the adult’s preconceptions of their child’s performance and the influence of those preconceptions on the behavior of the child. Adults explore a wide range of options to create the relationships that allow children to be strong, centered, and successful without the added burden of imposed agendas. Adults discover how to fulfill the common need in all our hearts: Self-reliant children who are able to access their own values, ethics, and morals for optimal well-being in relationships, work, and life.